Coming into 2021 there were different waves of optimism. I think we all kinda hoped covid would be “over” by now, but instead we’re in this weird hazy “learn to live with covid” phase which involves frequent testing, careful planning and vaccinations.
Whether of course you care about testing, planning or being vaccinated might differ – but you’re certainly in a world that does.
I didn’t really set targets for 2021 – and, if I’m honest, I was worried more of the year would be written off than actually was.
Certainly, planning for 2022 might be a touch more optimistic.
Although, new challenges await.
I first met Lady Valeska at a filming and Femdom event in Evesham back in 2019.
At the time my clip store was in it’s infancy, but she was really kind enough to let me use a one-on-one clip we’d done for her OnlyFans in my store – and that was both nice and unexpected.
Not just that but of course she was someone whose company I’d enjoyed being around over those couple of days.
So, there was always hope we’d do more again.
I know there’s a running joke about the “Hey, we should do something someday” and the amount of time it takes to, well, do something. But, I think meeting Miss Jessica Hyde was certainly on the excessive front time wise – at 18 months.
To be fair to both of us, there was a pandemic. But the day we both met was glorious, but also a little nerve wracking.
A bit of a trinity today.
Filming with Foxtress (our third film day together), Goddess Cleo (who we’ve talked about filming a few times in the past it’s just never happened) and Mistress Annaliese (on her first ever film day).
So, it’s cosy. Probably the most people I’ve seen in one room in.. ooh… a while.
For the longest time I was ashamed of my foot fetish.
I mean, it seems difficult. Something you can’t really control. But, for the longest time I struggled with it.
Now, well, there’s pictures and videos of me with a foot in my face and a pathetic grin – but there’s a reason for that grin. And, that’s partially acceptance.
Filming, and other opportunities, through the pandemic had been sparse.
A lot felt weird to diary about, so I didn’t, but many were low risk and low key. Literally myself, the lady and a tripod.
Today we have a camera operator – so there’s 3 of us!
Why you’re not getting the play or relationships you crave
People often want different things from their patriation in the fetish community (be participation signing up for websites or going to munches/events).
And while some people seem to have great relationships, get lots of play, so on – there are those who often struggle and get frustrated.
The purpose of this blog is to highlight some common failures and also a little ‘what you can do to increase prospects’.
We’re not very far into 2021. 2020 didn’t really go the way any of us envisioned and, I think, there is a good possibility of things to look forward to in 2021.
I don’t know how the situation will be in different countries, but, for the UK I would expect that after the priority groups are vaccinated that we will start to see restrictions eased.
Granted, some things might become more practical later rather than sooner. For example it might be that bars and venues can reopen, but if there’s things like social distancing and group limits or whatever it makes some things less viable.
Ownership : Being one sub of many
It’s not massively uncommon to see a Dominant have/own multiple subs.
There’s lots of different structures this can occur in and is neither exclusive to the “Professional” or “Lifestyle” side of things.
It may, but not necessarily, be polyamorous but is certainly a form of non-monogamy.
This is something that is a new idea to many people and certainly not without it’s challenges.
Being part of a set up like this has it’s advantages and disadvantages (just like anything anywhere, really) but it’s certainly something to think about if this is ‘for you’ and some of the perils you might run into.
I don’t diary every filming day or private session (not that I’ve had a private session in a while… another story for another day) but I almost started to regret that with the pandemic and shut down.
So, the filming day I had with Georgie Girl back on March 16th didn’t get a diary post (sorry!) and it’s been 5 whole months without any filming.
Or seeing anyone.
Or leaving my hometown.
I’d put my own plans to return to filming back more than once. Either to comply with guidance or for my own concerns/safety/
I always liked the idea of doing retrospective diaries – particularly when there’d been sessions, filming or events I’d not documented before.
Today, I’m going to take you back to 2001. To a period of my life. How I got into kink.
I often joke that I “took a break” and then came back, the break lasting 15 years.
But, what happened before this ‘break’?
I’ve found over the last 12 months or so a growing number of people who’ve expressed interest in filming – but trying to sort it out is somewhat trickier than it should seem.
I’ve been plotting a few regular trips to London this year, for a mixture of music and fetish events.
So, the opportunity to go to a concert I’d wanted to see and try to arrange some filming around it seemed a good idea.
In reality, ended up with one day filming out of 3 possible days – but it was certainly a quality over quantity situation when that one day was with AMY WYNTERS.