eyemblacksheep

Journey and Opinions of a BDSM Kinkster

Diary : Filming with Lady Valeska

I first met Lady Valeska at a filming and Femdom event in Evesham back in 2019.

At the time my clip store was in it’s infancy, but she was really kind enough to let me use a one-on-one clip we’d done for her OnlyFans in my store – and that was both nice and unexpected.

Not just that but of course she was someone whose company I’d enjoyed being around over those couple of days.

So, there was always hope we’d do more again.

Diary : Finding Miss Hyde

I know there’s a running joke about the “Hey, we should do something someday” and the amount of time it takes to, well, do something.   But, I think meeting Miss Jessica Hyde was certainly on the excessive front time wise – at 18 months.

To be fair to both of us, there was a pandemic.  But the day we both met was glorious, but also a little nerve wracking.

Why don’t Porn sites just use crypto?

With the new Mastercard regulations for the adult industry about to hit imminently, there has been some frantic changes in the past couple of weeks as sites roll out new ways to prepare for these.

There’s every chance the chaos could continue in the following few weeks if it appears sites are not prepared, and any grace periods or frantic changes “putting things right”.

Throw away comments like “we’ll just go to another site” become lost as – well, being card driven – all sites are affected.

What is a BDSM Mentor?

Something that you may see talked about in some circles is the concept of a Mentor.

For example, someone might recommend someone seeks a mentor, or someone might feel they would benefit from having one and seek one out.

Like a lot of things within kink, it’s something where there’s sometimes misunderstanding of the role.

The purpose of this blog is to look at what a mentor is, what a mentor isn’t and whether you even need one in the first place.

Diary : A Trinity of Filming – Foxtress, Goddess Cleo and Miss Annaliese

A bit of a trinity today.

Filming with Foxtress (our third film day together), Goddess Cleo (who we’ve talked about filming a few times in the past it’s just never happened) and Mistress Annaliese (on her first ever film day).

So, it’s cosy.  Probably the most people I’ve seen in one room in.. ooh… a while.

Overcoming the Shame of a Foot Fetish

For the longest time I was ashamed of my foot fetish.

I mean, it seems difficult. Something you can’t really control.  But, for the longest time I struggled with it.

Now, well, there’s pictures and videos of me with a foot in my face and a pathetic grin – but there’s a reason for that grin. And, that’s partially acceptance.

Booking a Session with a Pro Domme

There is rarely a bad time to make steps in booking a first session with any form of provider (while this may follow a bias of ‘Professional Dominant’ – the logic applies to anything from Pro Subs to Full Service to anything else) – however, at the point we’re at in the pandemic when things are opening back up, it might feel like a good time – particularly if you’d previously felt you’d missed out or are looking to start getting active in kink.

Diary : Filming with Miss Wildfire

Filming, and other opportunities, through the pandemic had been sparse.

A lot felt weird to diary about, so I didn’t, but many were low risk and low key.  Literally myself, the lady and a tripod.

Today we have a camera operator – so there’s 3 of us!

If Clip Descriptions were honest…

I write a lot of clip descriptions – not just for myself but for others

Now, ultimately the purpose of a description is to provide an extra selling point – both kinda describing what is in the clip but also possibly selling a little bit of a fantasy.

I was half thinking a little – that, I literally did a clip the other week where the honesty was that I’d just finished a strap on clip with Miss Annaliese and Foxtress basically was – “I want a go” and dragged me into the hall for another clip.

Is BDSM Becoming “Too Safe”

Every now and then someone will make a blog, or post, or tweet about some form of “good practice” in kink.

This is usually based around everything from safety precautions, consent, scene negotiation, vetting, whatever.

And, every now and then.  Someone will comment to say about how people are trying to make BDSM “safe” and “wrap it up in cotton wool”.

There are various straw arguments often get used (“Crossing the street isn’t safe!”, “Some people are attracted to the danger, so putting safety in place negates that!”, “Don’t tell me how to play!”) which I will look at also.

But, I dunno, is BDSM becoming “too safe”?

The dilemma – leading with fetishes or raising too late?

A common scenario I see from sub guys is this kinda dilemma.

They have, or had, a partner and the relationship has proceeded as relationships do.  They’ve then perhaps raised a fetish, or dynamic, or idea and their partner just hasn’t warmed to it.

Perhaps they have a foot fetish and their partner is grossed by feet.  Perhaps they want their partner to be “Dominant” and their partner just isn’t really interested.

So they then either accept this and the relationship continues. Or, this becomes something that ends.  But it can feel like both have wasted time putting into a relationship that at least one could never be happy with.

To counter this. There are of course people who are very explicit in what they want.  Be it they want a FLR. A partner who is Dominant. Who has certain kinks or fetishes. Who enjoys having their feet worshipped, or at least open to the idea.

Why can a Dominant have many subs, but a sub can’t have many Dominants?

Before I get to the obvious – this was something raised to me as a question as a suggestion for a blog.

The backstory goes as follows.

“There was a Mistress who made some posts about being poly and celebrating the virtues of it.  But, she insisted her subs remained mono.  She admitted she had double standards. It seems strange?”

Some of this unpacks some of the myths around poly and other shades of non-mono.

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