It’s been a bit of a while since I did a diary style post and despite regularly attending award events, I’ve never really blogged about them. I have just attended the UK Fetish Awards.
So, here is a two for one.
The very first awards I went to was the UKAP Awards back in 2018, before UKAP became SNAP.
I didn’t know how things would go but it was when I was blogging *a lot* and someone suggested putting it forward to some of the awards people. So I did, and got shortlisted.
And while I didn’t win, or make the final board, it was a fun night out.
It’s been a topic in my mind in the past, and it came up in a little group chat the other day.
Friends and friendships. Particularly within kink and/or the industry.
Particular frustrations, to paraphrase, “I thought we were friends, but we don’t talk any more and she no longer replies to me; was I just a customer”
I mean. Possibly. And it can be hard. If you thought the nature of your relationship was different to how the other person saw it.
But friendships in general are very complex.
If you google “myths about submission” the vast majority of results that come back are bias towards submissive women.
And this is valid, and a lot of points are completely transferable, but – all too often I see myths that a lot of submissive men feel about themselves, or feel they have to live up to, or that they face.
We’re a week into the clips4sale “120%” commission incentive… it’s LoyalFans 100% day… ManyVids launches another contest… and iWantClips are probably doing something.
And these incentives, tags, themes, initiaves, games, well…
Of course. It’s always nice to get extra in pay-packets. But wouldn’t it be even nicer if there was proper uplift without hoop jumping?
There’s a lot I get, and a lot of pros and cons of some of these.
All About Traffic
First off, what the sites want is you promoting them. You giving them traffic. You turning them into a brand people trust.
But the most precious thing you can give them is still… content.
Mistress’s words were the only thing her sub heard, as he was under hypnosis. Her voice was soft and clear, like a whisper echoing in the dungeon. The only other sound came from the atmospheric electronic music that played in the background.
Her hot breath touched his ear, sending shivers down his spine as she spoke.
“I have a series of questions for you, it’s important you answer each one honestly”
The sub lay there, obedient but nervous. Despite the mild hypnosis he was still very aware of his surroundings and was nervous as to what she had in store for him.
As someone who has often previously been an advocate on the whole “come to munches” thing, and of course run a munch (which you should totally come to) there’s a lot where my mind has changed a little bit over time.
I mean, I have thought that “come to a munch” has sometimes been a bit trigger happy especially if, say, it’s a guy who’s being send inappropriate messages online and then moaning “but this is a sex site”. That going to a munch isn’t really in their best interests – nor – of those who he has been sexually harassing.
For assorted reasons there’s a lot of chatter recently on deposits, why we pay them, when they’re refundable and, more.
So here is a quick guide.
YOU NEVER USED TO HAVE TO PAY DEPOSITS!!!
And now you do. Times change.
Read on and I’m sure you’ll get some incite.
OK, WHAT IS THE PROCESS? WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT
You will make initial contact with a provider via their preferred method. You might have a date/time in mind. You might be a bit more open. You probably have a rough idea what you want to do.
When this is agreed you pay the deposit.
HOW MUCH DO I PAY?
Different providers have different rules. Some are fixed rate, but typically it’s 50% of the session cost.
They will give you a preferred method of tribute. Usually by bank transfer, but sometimes via a gift card.
One of the myths that always pops up is “the submissive is the one really in control”
Granted. The submissive has more control than credit is sometimes given for but to say they have overall control is both inaccurate and, frankly, dangerous.
For the sake of this post I am going to use Dominant as a catch all for terms such as “Top”, “Service Top”, “Sadist”, “Rigger”, etc because the logic is the same – and submissive again as a catch all covering “bottom”, “masochist”, etc.
Not to say I’ve been slow in updating my blog recently. But, I’ve been slow at updating my blog recently.
In 2023 so far there have been 5 published blogs, this makes number 6, so around one a month. A far cry from when I was doing circa 40 a year.
So what changed, and what has been happening?
I can’t remember, specifically, when I first fantasised about watersports.
I guess I was late teens.
I know it was something I raised with my first wife but it wasn’t something which interested her or subsequent partners. Sometimes, for different reasons.
For example: I have done some play with Valleycat, but, they have a nervous bladder so most things are not going to work.
2013, aged 32, I joined my local kink community. Started attending munches and events. I did, very quickly get into situations where I was doing a lot of play with folk and had made a lot of friends.
Despite this, even 2 years later I found it difficult asking about specific things, including piss play, when not knowing if folk were into it or not.
Everyone loves orgasms, right? I know I really do enjoy a lovely explosive cum shot.
But, over the years – especially in filming – I seem to have found myself in a few situation that weren’t really the pleasantry they should be.
While there have certainly been more than 5, here are 5 key moments in my unenjoyable orgasms
A somewhat hot topic recently has been around ‘filming tributes’ and how right or fair they are.
Often the fee/payment to see a Pro-Domme or engage in some form of online (or other play) is known as the ‘tribute’. With many also doing filming to some degree, in many cases the subs are contributing a ‘film tribute’. The guys are paying to be there. To star in a video which is going to make the Domme money.
Many people do not feel this is fair.
Here is my insight.