This is not (just) about Findom.
There’s a lot within fetish and BDSM, particularly when you’re new, or meet somebody new, there can be a temptation to “spend now, worry about it later”
This could be because you want to make a good impression. Or it could be that you would rather do something NOW and pay it off than wait in the hope you can afford the time later. Fearing you will miss opportunities.
This is something that is largely a joint responsibility, but largely that on the sub.
Unless you have an arrangement, expecting your Dominant to be responsible for your spending/finances is extra labour on them. Ultimately, they can’t do anything about it if you’re not sure and crystal honest yourself.
And, also, unless you’re exclusive to one person – then nobody can babysit your finances for you.
Here’s some tips to follow
After a busy May, June needed to be a little quieter. But, things for July seemed to slot neatly.
This blog covers the weekend of 4th-6th July – some further antics will be in future blogs.
I’ve already written a blog about a visit to Club DVS, although the plan for the weekend was to go down and do a little filming and go to the club, it turned into a little more.
Often a lot of my blogs work for one audience ahead of another – but this is generally one for everyone who is likely to read.
I know many of you probably already get routinely checked and take practices seriously.
But, if you don’t – I don’t wish to be preachy but encouraging.
I knew it was something I really kinda should do – but, just, well, didn’t.
It was actually during a very busy period where the conversation came back up and I felt I really should look into getting checked – and, also as it happens, during this period I did suffer (what turned out to be) damage to the tip of my penis which of course made me know – I HAVE to get things checked out.
I have been incredibly and wonderfully busy recently – the downside of this is that it’s been really difficult to individually blog all of the experiences.
Though, I don’t like to blog *everything* for assorted reasons.
I’ve not really touched on it in my blog, but I am no longer in service to Miss Suzanna.
All anyone needs to know is that I’m no longer in service to her and that we’d both like to remain friends.
There’s a lot of clubs that I’ve been fortunate enough to have visited. I can’t think of any active events that I’d not recommend; but certainly some that I find easier to universally recommend.
I like what Club DVS are doing. They have a munch, a workshop and a club night that do work as a little bit of a trinity.
So, you can in theory go to the munch and meet people you are likely to see at the club; you can also boost your knowledge at the workshops.
I recently had a thought about mental health – and a kind of, how well do we communicate our needs within fetish and BDSM.
I realised that this was something myself I could do better, but I was interested about a wider base.
Most Dominants have a section about health needs on their contact forms, or encourage info of health considerations to be volunteered.
So, it’s here. My own Femdom clipstore.
Who’d have thought it?
When I first started filming 3 years ago it was a little bit “Wouldn’t this be fun to do sometime”. Things have come a little way since then.
Of course the idea of my own store drifted in and out, but it wasn’t one I really felt I’d ever do.
I know there are many different “how to contact a Dominant” type blogs – although, still many people who clearly could learn more.
I have, at times, seen people feel this doesn’t apply to them or is pretentious or whatever bollocks – but, there is part of this I’m going to explain.
While it may seem obvious to consider “first impressions” – there is a little more to it than that. It’s also a form of vetting.
I’m going to explain this simple and to the point.
One of the things you may know I’ve struggled with in the past of the feeling of “being good enough”. Because there’s always someone prettier, richer, can take more, more popular, has better contacts, has a specialist ability, so on.
Now. You don’t need to be “the best” to exceed the minimum standards. That’s something important.