Category Opinion Pieces
This is a blog I think a number of conversations and more has led me to write; but it’s arguably controversial. “Does she really like me, or is it purely financial?” Oh. OK. I suppose a counter argument could be… Continue Reading →
In previous years I’ve retweeted out some of my most read blogs of the year, but this time I thought I’d put them all in one link. There’s been a mixed bag of the educational, the funny and the diaries…… Continue Reading →
A somewhat common phrase within kink is “Topping from the Bottom” which is also presented as being a bad thing. I do agree that it is, if not consensual – and can be bad for both the Dominant and the… Continue Reading →
I was recently in a Twitter discussion regarding self-esteem. A question being that : How can a a sub maintain healthy self-esteem in a D/s relationship as an “Inferior”? I think there is a lot of language used, especially online,… Continue Reading →
As often, there’s been continuous talk on the shadowban and assorted theories on how to beat it or avoid it. This doesn’t help that it seems a fair few sex workers, and others from the adult industry, awoke on Friday… Continue Reading →
There’s an alarming regularity that someone will write on a forum something like “Why is it hard to find a Domme?”, “Where are all the Dommes?”, “My fetish is a bit niche so it’s hard to find someone…” To a… Continue Reading →
Knowing/Setting Your Financial Boundaries. This is not (just) about Findom. There’s a lot within fetish and BDSM, particularly when you’re new, or meet somebody new, there can be a temptation to “spend now, worry about it later” This could be… Continue Reading →
After a busy May, June needed to be a little quieter. But, things for July seemed to slot neatly. This blog covers the weekend of 4th-6th July – some further antics will be in future blogs. I’ve already written a… Continue Reading →
Often a lot of my blogs work for one audience ahead of another – but this is generally one for everyone who is likely to read. Sexual Health. I know many of you probably already get routinely checked and take… Continue Reading →
I recently had a thought about mental health – and a kind of, how well do we communicate our needs within fetish and BDSM. I realised that this was something myself I could do better, but I was interested about… Continue Reading →
I know there are many different “how to contact a Dominant” type blogs – although, still many people who clearly could learn more. I have, at times, seen people feel this doesn’t apply to them or is pretentious or whatever… Continue Reading →
“Why don’t you just get a slave to do it?” I think this is going to be my most simple, and to the point, posts. There seems to be a rise recently whereby a Mistress or Dominant will post about… Continue Reading →