I know there’s a temptation when you see someone’s photo/clip/etc that you like to put in a comment and “interact”.
Now, I think this can be an encouraging way to show appreciation (especially if you’ve actually bought the clip, when relevant) but before you put your fingers on the keyboard and start dancing across with one hand – here are some things to think about and consider.
DOES MY COMMENT ACTUALLY CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING?
A fetlife love, or a twitter retweet, will put the item into people’s feeds without you having to mash the keyboard in the name of ‘crumbs’.
Bollocks like “nice”, “beautiful x” or something leftfield like “Hi!” – they do nothing.
If really, all you think is “this is a nice photo and I’d like to say it” then what do you like about it.
A recent example on some photos I left a comment on was I liked how it showed off the smile.
“You’re hot/pretty/beautiful” = worthless. “I love your smile/hair/look in that photo” at least it’s showing what you like about it above a bottom ranked ‘compliment’.
DOES THE LEVEL OF RELATIONSHIP I HAVE WITH THIS PERSON WARRANT THE LEVEL OF COMMENT I AM ABOUT TO MAKE?
It can be frustrating, effectively been chastised for making a comment similar to one someone else has “got away with” but a lot of this is in the context of relationship.
It’s easier to think of this is heterosexual terms – if you are a straight guy leaving a comment on a Ladies photo, how would you feel if a guy left that sort of comment on one of yours?
YOU ARE NOT BETTER THAN THE PEOPLE IN THE PHOTO
“I can take that harder”, “If I was there I would have done this…” well, if you can do it better – off you fuck and do it better – and – if you can do it better, you’d have been aware at your own learning curve and so shouldn’t be looking down at others.
DON’T DIRECT / INTERJECT YOUR FANTASIES
Similar to the “if I were there…” but also consider avoiding things like.
“Next time you should…”
or “Make them do this” or “Why are you being so nice?”
If you want to direct scenes, then pay for a custom.
Actually, one of these needs it’s own points…
IF I WAS THERE I WOULD…
This is then usually followed by some fantasy or another which ultimately confirms why you were NOT there. “If I was there I’d fire hot spunk all over and make her lick it up” – umm, you mean you’d do this whether or not she consented? I mean, if that’s what she wanted to do she may well have done and so you saying you’d come along and ignore limits doesn’t paint yourself very well.
NOBODY IS ‘LUCKY’
I appreciate there is ‘good fortune’ some have. Happening to live nearer a premise or in a more liberal council has you at a slight advantage over someone who lives far from everything.
If I wanted to see my Mistress at short notice, travel could be up to £80 – whereas someone who lives closer it might be, I dunno, £8.
But, anything that has happened wasn’t down to luck but from either earning the relevant trust and/or booking the session and turning up.
Those with good relationships have spent a lot of time nurturing them – no luck required.
“I WISH THAT WAS ME”
Perhaps if you stopped fapping over strangers photos on the internet and got involved then it could be. Who knows? Go out and make things happen – wishing isn’t going to make things happen.
ACTUALLY BUY THE CLIP/SUPPORT THOSE PICTURED
If you really like the photo – if it’s a still or promo shot from a clip – how about actually buying the clip. Most clips are relatively inexpensive.
And if there’s no clip – or the person has more than you can afford – you can show gratitude in other ways, actions are louder than words – send them a gift or buy them a pint.
Mine is a double spiced rum and coke. Cheers.
Sometimes… just sometimes there are exceptions. For example, if someone has *clearly* expressed they wish for certain types of comment.
Another exception is dangerous or risky play, if the post is showcasing this then highlighting the risk is helpful – this could include evidence of strikes to kidneys or other danger spots.
And a final exception is if you genuinely have something to contribute that is genuinely helpful – but, most of the times – your post is not.