A couple of messages (some of specific scenarios, some generally being a form of FAQ) has led me to start a new Agony Aunt category.
Consider that my advice is based solely on my experience.
I want to start with an extremely common question I’ve heard/answered which I’ve paraphrased below.
“I have told my wife/girlfriend/partner about my fetish/fantasy. Unfortunately, they have said no – they won’t do/try this with me. How can I get them to do this for/with me?”
I feel there’s a trap some people fall into – which is based on behaviour patterns. If you are doing these things, you may be limiting yourself.
There is a kinda prejudice to this, but a logic to the prejudice.
It’s not about that you’re a “straight white male” or “older”. But, that your behaviour is following patterns that people have seen before. We know how it ends.
I feel I’ve been a bit lax in doing the diary posts for some of the filming days and so wanted to get back on it.
I think part the problem was I was doing a lot of filming very bundled together in a short space of time. I’m not sure.
So. 2019 finished on a high with a filming day with Devon Breeze and Princess Organa to the extent that I walked out thinking “yeah, I can be done for the year – I’m happy with that”
It was almost 2 months later before my next filming day – which was filming with Miss Kendal for Fetish SINema.
There’s something important that easy to forget about the industry and lifestyle in general. Sex work is a luxury.
Access to it is a luxury; not a right.
Your needs in life are food, water, shelter.
Even if you move up the hierarchy of needs; sex, kinks and fetishes are not on there.
It wasn’t an intention to go for a landmark number of clips; but, perhaps that in itself was why doing my 200th clip was so valuable.
I’d talked on and off about doing some filming with Nina Hiss – and good fortune had meant that she was available at a time I was in London anyway for a concert.
I was reading yet-another bitching-about-Findom thread the other day.
It’s kinda sobering the lack of self awareness some of these guys have.
It has happened, but it’s very rare I get cold contacted by a Findom – and – I’ll usually be polite unless she fails to take the, well, hint, that handing over money to someone random is most certainly not my kink.
How to Find a Mistress
I’ve seen a whole wave of newbies recently whom seem to have this question.
“I’m interested in exploring my fetishes, where can I find a Mistress?”
There’s no one-stop solution, but here’s some simple do’s and don’ts.
I recently started my ‘Mistress Profile’ style blogs and with it being fairly popular and well read I took it as an indication to do a few more.
It is slightly limited to those I’ve actually met, but, I have met many wonderful Women.
Next up I would like to write some nice things about Mistress Suzanna Maxwell.
I’ve pondered on and off for a while about doing a ‘Mistress Profile’ style blog, about the Women that inspire me, rather than just topics.
Now is as good a time as ever.
I’ve no idea how regular this will be, but having met a lot of amazing Women, it’d be nice to try to write something about those I’ve met, particularly if W/we have spent enough time together for me to put together a solid recommendation.
While, the order of publish doesn’t signify very much – I felt the first one I would like to do is Miss Courtney.
(Well, it had been at the time I wrote this 😉 )
It’s nice in the sense that it’s not too long, but still as a slight gap of wondering if things can be just picked up where they were left.
The link to the last blog is here if you missed it, but for a tl;dr we had a great fun time with a kind of ‘silly slave’ predicament theme. I think we play on that a little looser this time, but, I dunno…
There’s a few things I want to celebrate in this post.
There are some things people who know me will likely know.
I’ve been a filming slave for the past 18 months knocking up nearly 100 clips.