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The thing with kink, is it isn’t actually a ‘need’. You go through Maslow’s ‘hierarchy of needs’ and there’s no line for ballbusting. We ain’t gonna die or go unfulfilled if we’re not sucking toes. Water is as good (if… Continue Reading →
At it’s simplest in numbers. In 2022 I did 16 film days, doing a total of 90 clips with 20 different people. Landmarks among the way included filming the 400th clip I’d been in. It’s been a ride, and so… Continue Reading →
One of my favourite stories about consent, limits, and communication sums up some of my general feelings about the problem with ‘limits’ sometimes. The story goes. A shibari specialist was offering play and doing demos involving a queue of volunteers…. Continue Reading →
There is rarely a bad time to make steps in booking a first session with any form of provider (while this may follow a bias of ‘Professional Dominant’ – the logic applies to anything from Pro Subs to Full Service… Continue Reading →
Filming, and other opportunities, through the pandemic had been sparse. A lot felt weird to diary about, so I didn’t, but many were low risk and low key. Literally myself, the lady and a tripod. Today we have a camera… Continue Reading →
Why you’re not getting the play or relationships you crave People often want different things from their patriation in the fetish community (be participation signing up for websites or going to munches/events). And while some people seem to have great… Continue Reading →
A couple of messages (some of specific scenarios, some generally being a form of FAQ) has led me to start a new Agony Aunt category. Consider that my advice is based solely on my experience. I want to start with… Continue Reading →
I feel there’s a trap some people fall into – which is based on behaviour patterns. If you are doing these things, you may be limiting yourself. There is a kinda prejudice to this, but a logic to the prejudice…. Continue Reading →
I feel I’ve been a bit lax in doing the diary posts for some of the filming days and so wanted to get back on it. I think part the problem was I was doing a lot of filming very… Continue Reading →
There’s something important that easy to forget about the industry and lifestyle in general. Sex work is a luxury. Access to it is a luxury; not a right. Your needs in life are food, water, shelter. Even if you move… Continue Reading →
It wasn’t an intention to go for a landmark number of clips; but, perhaps that in itself was why doing my 200th clip was so valuable. I’d talked on and off about doing some filming with Nina Hiss – and… Continue Reading →
I was reading yet-another bitching-about-Findom thread the other day. It’s kinda sobering the lack of self awareness some of these guys have. It has happened, but it’s very rare I get cold contacted by a Findom – and – I’ll… Continue Reading →