Journey and Opinions of a BDSM Kinkster

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Better Pissed On than Pissed Off – Experience in Water Sports

I can’t remember, specifically, when I first fantasised about watersports.

I guess I was late teens.

I know it was something I raised with my first wife but it wasn’t something which interested her or subsequent partners. Sometimes, for different reasons.

For example: I have done some play with Valleycat, but, they have a nervous bladder so most things are not going to work.

2013, aged 32, I joined my local kink community. Started attending munches and events. I did, very quickly get into situations where I was doing a lot of play with folk and had made a lot of friends.

Despite this, even 2 years later I found it difficult asking about specific things, including piss play, when not knowing if folk were into it or not.

Worst Orgasms – My Top 5 Least Enjoyable Orgasms

Everyone loves orgasms, right?  I know I really do enjoy a lovely explosive cum shot.

But, over the years – especially in filming – I seem to have found myself in a few situation that weren’t really the pleasantry they should be.

While there have certainly been more than 5, here are 5 key moments in my unenjoyable orgasms

Are ‘filming tributes’ fair?

A somewhat hot topic recently has been around ‘filming tributes’ and how right or fair they are.

Often the fee/payment to see a Pro-Domme or engage in some form of online (or other play) is known as the ‘tribute’.  With many also doing filming to some degree, in many cases the subs are contributing a ‘film tribute’.  The guys are paying to be there. To star in a video which is going to make the Domme money.

Many people do not feel this is fair.

Here is my insight.

Diary : January Filming – feat Goddess Cleo, Miss Jessica Hyde, Foxtress and Mx Valleycat

It’s been a lot longer than planned since I last did a diary post!  So many adventures which haven’t fully gone documented, which feels a shame.

So, here are two for the price of one. January 2023 I managed two long, full, film days.

One of the covid-casualties was a gig I had been going to go to with Mx Valleycat. Heilung. I think it was rescheduled three times in the end, and then a late venue shift!

What is the Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish?

One of the most common newbie questions on forums is “What is the difference between a kink and a fetish”

Someone might do a copy/paste from a website of some definitions. Another person sees this as an opportunity to lay out the “one true definition” as a way to gatekeep everything. Intentionally or otherwise.

So, it’s true that the two have meanings, but they’ve become rather interchangeable.

As well as being interchangeable, some of their more strict definitions also ignore those who enjoy kink activities without a want of any form of sexual element.

However, this post does have a slight sexual bias.

2022 – in Video and Film

At it’s simplest in numbers.
In 2022 I did 16 film days, doing a total of 90 clips with 20 different people.
Landmarks among the way included filming the 400th clip I’d been in.

It’s been a ride, and so a little look back at each month.

2022 in Review

When 2022 began we were still coming off the tails of covid a lot.
There was still hope for less disruption and more optimism than in 2021, that seems to have come true.

While there certainly have been cancellations and frustrations, none of it has been through covid.  I’ve been back able to film most months, we’ve brought the munch back, and I’ve been able to attend a couple of events.
I also started a new kink based volunteer role, like I don’t do enough – ha!

So, as typical, a look over the highs and lows of my year, and a look forward to 2023.


Sometimes, for whatever reason, clips do not sell.

Even some of the most successful producers and creators have had some that did not shift (or did, but massively underperformed).

It’s not a sign of failure, or that the clips were bad (because someone would have to have bought the clip to think it was bad!) but there could be many factors.

Twitter Concerns : You’d Be Foolish to not look at alternatives

When the news first broke of Elon Musk’s planned takeover of Twitter I had concerns.

My concerns were simple.  A lot of change can be bad.  Tumblr had always been quite happy with adult content, and then following a takeover – it was quickly banned.

But also, this is a person who gave no reassurances to the adult industry (or pretty much any other industry!) that they would have nothing to worry about.
Instead, a lot of talk around reinstating “free speech”.

I can understand the want for optimism.  But, I’ve felt a lot of concerns have been waived away, and I don’t want things to end in panic if the platform is suddenly lost.

10 Tips for Multi Camera Editing

I prefer to have a camera operator/videographer but this isn’t always possible (even when possible – an additional angle has benefits) and so sometimes positioning all available cameras/phones/etc has good results.

I want to share tips and pitfalls of multi camera editing

Are you a vampire sub?

I’d been talking to a friend the other day.  She has been dating and looking for a kinky partner.   Although she is a switch, though it is not important to her that a partner would satisfy this.

She recently met a guy she really liked. Turned out he was into sissy play, which was not a dealbreaker for her.   But they didn’t last very long.

The problem was that she found him exhausting.  That meetings and interactions with him left her feeling drained and tired.  That, of course, she was very happy to help him explore sissy play, but largely that’s all that conversations were.

What is a Simp? And is it a bad thing?

One term that gets bandied about a lot recently is ‘Simp’.
It’s one of those where the original meaning has been claimed into a fetish and also thrown around as an insult by those who’ve lost the meaning.

So, let’s dive.

What is a Simp?

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