Often a lot of my blogs work for one audience ahead of another – but this is generally one for everyone who is likely to read.
I know many of you probably already get routinely checked and take practices seriously.
But, if you don’t – I don’t wish to be preachy but encouraging.
I knew it was something I really kinda should do – but, just, well, didn’t.
It was actually during a very busy period where the conversation came back up and I felt I really should look into getting checked – and, also as it happens, during this period I did suffer (what turned out to be) damage to the tip of my penis which of course made me know – I HAVE to get things checked out.
I have been incredibly and wonderfully busy recently – the downside of this is that it’s been really difficult to individually blog all of the experiences.
Though, I don’t like to blog *everything* for assorted reasons.
I’ve not really touched on it in my blog, but I am no longer in service to Miss Suzanna.
All anyone needs to know is that I’m no longer in service to her and that we’d both like to remain friends.
There’s a lot of clubs that I’ve been fortunate enough to have visited. I can’t think of any active events that I’d not recommend; but certainly some that I find easier to universally recommend.
I like what Club DVS are doing. They have a munch, a workshop and a club night that do work as a little bit of a trinity.
So, you can in theory go to the munch and meet people you are likely to see at the club; you can also boost your knowledge at the workshops.
I recently had a thought about mental health – and a kind of, how well do we communicate our needs within fetish and BDSM.
I realised that this was something myself I could do better, but I was interested about a wider base.
Most Dominants have a section about health needs on their contact forms, or encourage info of health considerations to be volunteered.
So, it’s here. My own Femdom clipstore.
Who’d have thought it?
When I first started filming 3 years ago it was a little bit “Wouldn’t this be fun to do sometime”. Things have come a little way since then.
Of course the idea of my own store drifted in and out, but it wasn’t one I really felt I’d ever do.
I know there are many different “how to contact a Dominant” type blogs – although, still many people who clearly could learn more.
I have, at times, seen people feel this doesn’t apply to them or is pretentious or whatever bollocks – but, there is part of this I’m going to explain.
While it may seem obvious to consider “first impressions” – there is a little more to it than that. It’s also a form of vetting.
I’m going to explain this simple and to the point.
One of the things you may know I’ve struggled with in the past of the feeling of “being good enough”. Because there’s always someone prettier, richer, can take more, more popular, has better contacts, has a specialist ability, so on.
Now. You don’t need to be “the best” to exceed the minimum standards. That’s something important.
“What you going to write? That we drank tea and talked?”
“Maybe I will…”
It’s funny, really. And an important reminder of the importance of doing things without set expectations and to enjoy taking things as they come.
Although this blog post isn’t about the TV show ‘Bonding’ it is partially inspired by it.
If you’re unfamiliar with the show – it’s a Netflix show regarding a young Dominatrix recruiting her high-school friend as an assistant.
It’s 7 short episodes – around 15 minutes each – and has created a little bit debate regarding a few factors.
Obviously, I’m in full support that some are unhappy that the main character has an in-character account on Twitter, with a blue tick; when actual Dominants and sex workers find themselves shadow-banned.
It also fails to showcase some of the external factors against the industry (example SESTA/FOSTA or the threat of the Nordic Model in the UK) – and she seems to walk around with little consequences.