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Can We Please Stop the “Subs outnumber Dommes” myth? The ratio between subs and Dommes is a lot closer than many claim. It’s all too frequent that there is someone who will harp on about “the ratio” – how there… Continue Reading →
If you google “myths about submission” the vast majority of results that come back are bias towards submissive women. And this is valid, and a lot of points are completely transferable, but – all too often I see myths that… Continue Reading →
As someone who has often previously been an advocate on the whole “come to munches” thing, and of course run a munch (which you should totally come to) there’s a lot where my mind has changed a little bit over… Continue Reading →
A somewhat hot topic recently has been around ‘filming tributes’ and how right or fair they are. Often the fee/payment to see a Pro-Domme or engage in some form of online (or other play) is known as the ‘tribute’. With… Continue Reading →
Content share shoots are extremely common. In these two (or more) performers/creators/whatever-we’re-called-this-week come together and pool resources, share workload, and split costs in order to produce clips. The collaborative approach is also often a way to be introduced to someone… Continue Reading →
One of my favourite stories about consent, limits, and communication sums up some of my general feelings about the problem with ‘limits’ sometimes. The story goes. A shibari specialist was offering play and doing demos involving a queue of volunteers…. Continue Reading →
I was in a conference the other day and, for some bizarre reason, they closed by asking the presenters “does pineapple go on pizza?” My thought on this was what a bizarre way to end the day – and none… Continue Reading →
A common fantasy I see raised a lot is the idea of being a live-in slave. Except, the fantasy is not presented as being a fantasy, but a goal. Obviously there are people who have this type of relationship, under… Continue Reading →
Why you’re not getting the play or relationships you crave People often want different things from their patriation in the fetish community (be participation signing up for websites or going to munches/events). And while some people seem to have great… Continue Reading →
Punishments in BDSM often get talked about, but it’s something that’s often a little misunderstood, especially from newcomers. Experienced subs or Dominants might talk about being punished, or punishing their subs. If you watch BDSM clips, or read descriptions, there… Continue Reading →
Do you have to be submissive to enjoy kink? One thing I’ve learnt over the years is that a lot of people who are, or think they are, submissive often get confused on what this entails. That, not everyone on… Continue Reading →
The image of a carrot and a stick comes from the old cartoons. Someone is sitting on a donkey, dangling a carrot in front of its nose by a stick. This causes the donkey to move forwards, chasing the carrot… Continue Reading →