Category Opinion Pieces
Submission isn’t always black and white One of the first and most important rules in submission is that ‘the rules’ are defined by your relationship and dynamic. Sometimes the answer “is this normal?” is, “yes” and “does it matter anyway,… Continue Reading →
Initially, I was going to write this as a Monty Python style blog. What have the Professionals ever done for us? Well, apart from better sanitation and medicine and education and irrigation and public health and roads and a freshwater… Continue Reading →
I was reading yet-another bitching-about-Findom thread the other day. It’s kinda sobering the lack of self awareness some of these guys have. It has happened, but it’s very rare I get cold contacted by a Findom – and – I’ll… Continue Reading →
There’s a lot said around gifting and tribute. Whether this is within the whole Findom “spoil me” kind of thing. Or gifts when meeting, or after meeting, or for a birthday or Christmas… or just because. A lot of this… Continue Reading →
Recently, I conducted a survey to do some research around consent and violations and the management of these within BDSM. The reasons were two-fold, firstly for my own understanding. That, I of course have my own opinions and understanding, but… Continue Reading →
How to Find a Mistress I’ve seen a whole wave of newbies recently whom seem to have this question. “I’m interested in exploring my fetishes, where can I find a Mistress?” Or varients. There’s no one-stop solution, but here’s some… Continue Reading →
As you may have seen, this week off the cuff I decided to create a survey about consent and abuse of. A link to the survey is here. I wanted to use this blog in order to. – Clarify what… Continue Reading →
There are so many scenarios I can relate this to – and I’m sure most of you have either had someone attempt to take a short cut with you, or you’re possibly looking for the quickest way to get from… Continue Reading →
Whilst ideas and inspirations for new blogs are brewing, including a couple of drafts already written, I wanted to reflect on why I do this blog in the first place. Whilst it’s certainly evolved from the early days, some of… Continue Reading →
We’re barely into January and there’s already the rumbling of those who maybe made their New Years Resolution “Explore my kink side”. I kinda get the “New Year” thing. That perhaps there’s something in your life you’ve been putting off… Continue Reading →
I think there’s sometimes a polar in “sub” guys who get it wrong. Be it: 1) I’ll do anything, I have no limits or 2) I want to serve you by doing all my fetishes and fantasies. On the surface,… Continue Reading →
Different Types of Timewaster And, how not to be one. We all know about deliberate and blatant timewasters – though, we often assume timewaster = someone who books a session and doesn’t show, or overmilks a conversation without a firm… Continue Reading →