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For assorted reasons there’s a lot of chatter recently on deposits, why we pay them, when they’re refundable and, more.
So here is a quick guide.
YOU NEVER USED TO HAVE TO PAY DEPOSITS!!!
And now you do. Times change.
Read on and I’m sure you’ll get some incite.
OK, WHAT IS THE PROCESS? WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT
You will make initial contact with a provider via their preferred method. You might have a date/time in mind. You might be a bit more open. You probably have a rough idea what you want to do.
When this is agreed you pay the deposit.
HOW MUCH DO I PAY?
Different providers have different rules. Some are fixed rate, but typically it’s 50% of the session cost.
They will give you a preferred method of tribute. Usually by bank transfer, but sometimes via a gift card.
One of the myths that always pops up is “the submissive is the one really in control”
Granted. The submissive has more control than credit is sometimes given for but to say they have overall control is both inaccurate and, frankly, dangerous.
For the sake of this post I am going to use Dominant as a catch all for terms such as “Top”, “Service Top”, “Sadist”, “Rigger”, etc because the logic is the same – and submissive again as a catch all covering “bottom”, “masochist”, etc.
Not to say I’ve been slow in updating my blog recently. But, I’ve been slow at updating my blog recently.
In 2023 so far there have been 5 published blogs, this makes number 6, so around one a month. A far cry from when I was doing circa 40 a year.
So what changed, and what has been happening?
I can’t remember, specifically, when I first fantasised about watersports.
I guess I was late teens.
I know it was something I raised with my first wife but it wasn’t something which interested her or subsequent partners. Sometimes, for different reasons.
For example: I have done some play with Valleycat, but, they have a nervous bladder so most things are not going to work.
2013, aged 32, I joined my local kink community. Started attending munches and events. I did, very quickly get into situations where I was doing a lot of play with folk and had made a lot of friends.
Despite this, even 2 years later I found it difficult asking about specific things, including piss play, when not knowing if folk were into it or not.
Everyone loves orgasms, right? I know I really do enjoy a lovely explosive cum shot.
But, over the years – especially in filming – I seem to have found myself in a few situation that weren’t really the pleasantry they should be.
While there have certainly been more than 5, here are 5 key moments in my unenjoyable orgasms
A somewhat hot topic recently has been around ‘filming tributes’ and how right or fair they are.
Often the fee/payment to see a Pro-Domme or engage in some form of online (or other play) is known as the ‘tribute’. With many also doing filming to some degree, in many cases the subs are contributing a ‘film tribute’. The guys are paying to be there. To star in a video which is going to make the Domme money.
Many people do not feel this is fair.
Here is my insight.
It’s been a lot longer than planned since I last did a diary post! So many adventures which haven’t fully gone documented, which feels a shame.
So, here are two for the price of one. January 2023 I managed two long, full, film days.
One of the covid-casualties was a gig I had been going to go to with Mx Valleycat. Heilung. I think it was rescheduled three times in the end, and then a late venue shift!
One of the most common newbie questions on forums is “What is the difference between a kink and a fetish”
Someone might do a copy/paste from a website of some definitions. Another person sees this as an opportunity to lay out the “one true definition” as a way to gatekeep everything. Intentionally or otherwise.
So, it’s true that the two have meanings, but they’ve become rather interchangeable.
As well as being interchangeable, some of their more strict definitions also ignore those who enjoy kink activities without a want of any form of sexual element.
However, this post does have a slight sexual bias.
At it’s simplest in numbers.
In 2022 I did 16 film days, doing a total of 90 clips with 20 different people.
Landmarks among the way included filming the 400th clip I’d been in.
It’s been a ride, and so a little look back at each month.
When 2022 began we were still coming off the tails of covid a lot.
There was still hope for less disruption and more optimism than in 2021, that seems to have come true.
While there certainly have been cancellations and frustrations, none of it has been through covid. I’ve been back able to film most months, we’ve brought the munch back, and I’ve been able to attend a couple of events.
I also started a new kink based volunteer role, like I don’t do enough – ha!
So, as typical, a look over the highs and lows of my year, and a look forward to 2023.
Sometimes, for whatever reason, clips do not sell.
Even some of the most successful producers and creators have had some that did not shift (or did, but massively underperformed).
It’s not a sign of failure, or that the clips were bad (because someone would have to have bought the clip to think it was bad!) but there could be many factors.
When the news first broke of Elon Musk’s planned takeover of Twitter I had concerns.
My concerns were simple. A lot of change can be bad. Tumblr had always been quite happy with adult content, and then following a takeover – it was quickly banned.
But also, this is a person who gave no reassurances to the adult industry (or pretty much any other industry!) that they would have nothing to worry about.
Instead, a lot of talk around reinstating “free speech”.
I can understand the want for optimism. But, I’ve felt a lot of concerns have been waived away, and I don’t want things to end in panic if the platform is suddenly lost.