The history of Locktober is interesting

It seems to have stemmed from a couple’s sex/relationship blog who’d been exploring chastity play and so came up with the idea of keeping the M in chastity for the whole month and that any and all sexual activity would be solely for her pleasure/orgasms.

It then kinda came up a little as a challenge which others partook in. A good idea for anyone else into chastity play in their relationship – but also kinda taken as an abstinence challenge by single penis owners.

Obviously anyone can buy a chastity device and lock themselves up – though actually you don’t *really* need a cage to enact discipline.

Within this, Dominants (both pro and not) started using this as an extra game with their subs – and it can be used for friends who play together.

And while things change over time, the original/core purpose here was – kinda – focusing on his partners pleasure.

Which then brings me to a couple of points.
Dominants/Key-Holders – don’t feel obliged to partake in this regardless of whether this is a sub, partner, friend, stranger-on-the-internet.

If you do, then this is supposed to be for your enjoyment – so if you wouldn’t enjoy it, don’t do it.

Subs/Locked-Cocks – if you make your dick the centre of your chastity then you’re missing the point a little. You can self lock/deny without a keyholder.
Of course, this can be fun to do with someone – but asking strangers/acquaintances to be your keyholder is not the perk you think it is.
Pressuring a partner into locking you up shouldn’t ultimately be about denying them sex.

Of course a little bit because of this, there are Pro Dommes who will offer different types of keyholding ‘packages’ – and this isn’t to say they don’t/won’t enjoy this but the pleasure they’re mostly getting for this *is paid*
And, like a lot of missed goals in kink; there’s too many folk who ultimately, what they want, is Pro Domme sessions *they just don’t want to pay for it*

So, self-lock by all means. But, the ultimate question, as always, is how does being locked ‘for someone’ actually benefit them?