I’m not at all surprised by many of the Dominants who’ve said that future priority will be given to those who supported them during the pandemic. Certainly if you’ve been supporting your Dominant during covid, it’ll be better for both of you at the other side of this.
This did throw a few questions and points in my head.
Although, obviously I agree with this stance.
So, hypothetically in the future I might speak to someone about something and they decline because they are prioritising those who supported them during the pandemic.
Again. I agree with this.
But, what if I, or another sub, thought we had?
Or, what if, there were circumstances that prevented someone from being able to support. For example the impact of the pandemic or Brexit, or whatever, on them?
So, buckle up. Here are my answers to many questions.
AM I DOING ENOUGH TO SUPPORT MY DOMINANT DURING THE PANDEMIC?
I don’t know. Are you?
Is there more you know you could reasonably do?
Have you tried, possibly, asking your Dominant?
I’M NOT IN SERVICE, BUT THERE’S SOMEONE I WANT TO MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION ON. WHAT CAN I DO?
This may come as a surprise. But the same as any other time.
Buy clips. Join their OnlyFans. Retweet. Respectfully interact where appropriate. Tip. Tribute.
Obviously things *have* changed. So, don’t expect to be able to meet any time soon. Don’t expect to be first in line, either.
I LIKE LOTS OF PEOPLE – WHO DO I HELP?
Tough one, and one I can relate to! It might be frustrating if you just cannot help everyone you want to help. So, just go with things as and when you can or want to. It will still be appreciated and you do get access to the content don’t forget!
You don’t know everyone’s circumstances, or the circumstances of those who’d normally support them. There could be temptation to steer towards those you think need it the most, those whose content you like the most, or so on. Just roll with it. It’s not about who will give you the most at the end.
SO, DOES THIS MEAN IF I DO ALL THESE THINGS I WILL BE PRIORITISED?
No. Context applies. Certainly this may be looked on favourably if you used your circumstances to help someone when their circumstances was affected.
But nothing comes with automatic guarantees.
Let’s flip this and say that you don’t get prioritised for something and have an attitude of “I supported you, therefore I felt I should…” – that’s called entitlement.
It also means you didn’t support through wanting to help, but to gain an advantage.
MY CIRCUMSTANCES HAVE MEANT I’VE NOT BEEN ABLE TO SUPPORT MY DOMINANT (OR THOSE I LIKE) THAT MUCH DURING THE PANDEMIC. WILL I BE LEFT BEHIND?
Also no. Circumstances are different. I am doing a longer blog on this at some point, but, if your finances or availability is impacted due to furlough, less income, redundancy, home schooling, future uncertainty, Brexit, whatever… then speak to your Dominant.
If it’s someone you’ve long standing with then they might have suggestions. Or if it’s someone you’ve built trust with then they could very well be familiar with your circumstances.
Just, again, don’t automatically expect anything, especially if it’s someone you’ve not been in service to for long or aren’t in service to.
Also respect that different people have different boundaries.
It may be they cannot offer so much if you’re doing less, but I would be surprised at anyone closing the door on an otherwise good sub; I’d hope your loyalty would mean you’d do more again when you could.
The people who will be left behind are those that could have helped, but didn’t. Or, who went missing or ghosted their Dominants.
A SIMPLE CONCLUSION
Are you in service? If yes, speak to your Dominant.
Are you able to do more? Then, consider doing more.
Are you unable to do as much as you could or would like? Then, do what you can. Don’t stress or burn yourself out pushing beyond what you’re able to do.
Remember. This is about helping someone you admire and/or are in a relationship with. This is not taking shortcuts or point scoring.
As a side note. Many are saying this to either champion those who’ve stepped up and/or to say they’ve noticed those who’ve gone missing when needed.