You’re scrolling through Twitter or Fetlife or wherever and see photos or mention of someone that makes you go “ooh”.
Perhaps this could be a picture or clip of someone you’ve found attractive or maybe something they’ve said that reasons with your mind.
There’s a little part of your brain spikes up and goes “I simply have to meet this person”.
Of course in a lot of cases a lot of initial horniness takes over – and is where we get a lot of the stupid from – but again to cut this quicker you’re a rational person and can manage to type with hands above the keyboard and begin to type an application to serve or book a session.
Which, um, is still some of the horniness taking over.
In some of these steps that follow are things to consider to help increase the chances of the person being right for you on whatever basis.
The purpose of this blog serves for an almost pre-contact vetting. I may continue this series for almost ongoing vetting.
Submission isn’t always black and white
One of the first and most important rules in submission is that ‘the rules’ are defined by your relationship and dynamic.
Sometimes the answer “is this normal?” is, “yes” and “does it matter anyway, if it works for you?”.
Of course, sometimes this can be easier if you are in a relationship and exploring, working out what does and doesn’t work for you.
But this can sometimes be trickier if you’re seeking a relationship or are constantly facing challenges or things not being quite right.
My thoughts on Fantasy v Reality take a little bit of a twist today.
See, I had intended on following up my, more lighthearted, post – with something more serious about some of my struggles.
But, instead I decided on another angle.
For this I need to give you an anecdote of something that happened 2 years ago.
I was around a week away from what would be my second session with a Pro Domme. It was the same Lady as my first session, but, we’d had a lot of fun and wanted to do it again – and – some things we’d wanted to develop a little.