I feel there’s a trap some people fall into – which is based on behaviour patterns. If you are doing these things, you may be limiting yourself.
There is a kinda prejudice to this, but a logic to the prejudice.
It’s not about that you’re a “straight white male” or “older”. But, that your behaviour is following patterns that people have seen before. We know how it ends.
We’re barely into January and there’s already the rumbling of those who maybe made their New Years Resolution “Explore my kink side”.
I kinda get the “New Year” thing. That perhaps there’s something in your life you’ve been putting off doing, for whatever reason, so the turn of the calendar year can be a prompt to do it.
Or of course, it’s easier to think in targets against a calendar year.
I also know newcomers come in all different shapes and sizes – be it people with experience coming back… couples looking to enhance their relationship… those looking for a relationship… those seeking to explore fantasies… so forth.
Some of this is all great stuff.