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Those whose New Year Resolution is “Explore my Kinky Side”

We’re barely into January and there’s already the rumbling of those who maybe made their New Years Resolution “Explore my kink side”.

I kinda get the “New Year” thing. That perhaps there’s something in your life you’ve been putting off doing, for whatever reason, so the turn of the calendar year can be a prompt to do it.

Or of course, it’s easier to think in targets against a calendar year.

I also know newcomers come in all different shapes and sizes – be it people with experience coming back… couples looking to enhance their relationship… those looking for a relationship… those seeking to explore fantasies… so forth.

Some of this is all great stuff.

I’ll do anything (as long as it’s my fetish)

I think there’s sometimes a polar in “sub” guys who get it wrong.

Be it:
1) I’ll do anything, I have no limits
or
2) I want to serve you by doing all my fetishes and fantasies.

On the surface, one guy is too open and the other is too closed.

Different Types of Timewaster

Different Types of Timewaster

And, how not to be one.

We all know about deliberate and blatant timewasters – though, we often assume timewaster = someone who books a session and doesn’t show, or overmilks a conversation without a firm booking. Or pretends to have bought something from a Wishlist (perhaps even buys, sends ‘proof’ then cancels the order)

They know exactly what they’re doing.

If she loved it she’d do it for free

I’ve heard this call a lot over the years. Recently a couple of threads on Twitter and Fetlife have prompted me to this mini burst.

Without addressing any specific points.

There’s no such thing as free

I’m going to address this by talking about some of the experiences of myself and my wife and arguably some of the others I’ve played with without tribute.

Mistresses are Rock Stars

As some of you know, I’ve a bit of a background in the music industry (often described as “my other expensive hobby” – though, neither I see as hobbies, moreso lifestyles – but hey ho)

I’ve often seen many parallels between the music industry and the Femdom industry. So much so it’s scary.

Only Fans and Horses

There’s been a rise recently in Premiem Content playforms, by that I mean stuff like OnlyFans, Premium Snapchat and a few other bits popping up here and there.
Inevitably, this has led to a rise in disapproval in them, be this from those outspoken against them, or those frustrated content they want is behind a paywall.

For those frustrated.
That’s the point.

What will you do when the person you admire retires?

Mistress Ana posed a question on twitter earlier this week.

What will you do when the person you admire most, whoever they are, retires and completely washes their hands of adult/sex work?

It’s actually a fear of mine.
And reminds me of the fragility of everything.

Diary : Filming With Mistress Aleera

I mentioned in my blog last time that no two filming days are the same, so yet again it’s always good for a new experience.

Whilst there was a worrying doubt that the shoot today might not be able to take place, due to the camerawomen being unavailable, a little improvisation turns this into something I think W/we are glad W/we did. I’m most certainly thrilled it could go ahead.

Let’s rewind a bit.

So you want to be a film slave

A few months ago I wrote a blog about filming to mark a year of it (read that here), I’ll probably do a direct follow up next year to mark two years of it – but in the meantime…
It did spark a few “Oh, I’d love to get into it” kind of posts and comments. So, here’s an ‘advice’ post.
And then I didn’t.

My Wife and Our Relationship

One idea I toyed with was doing blogs about my favourite Mistresses and why they are so wonderful.
I might do that, one day.   But regardless, I think it’d be more apt to do one about the most special Lady in my life, my wife.
I am going to talk a little about our relationship, our dynamic and I don’t know. It might help others understand, or, it might help others talk with their partners, or if nothing else I get to talk about a passion of mine and our relationship.

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