“Wanna Make Content” – the rise of the fake male performer
There’s been a little bit of a worrying trend lately.
I’m not so much talking about the rise of young ladies on OnlyFans. The rise of sock/picture/custom/sellers or even the rise of scammers.
(Though, scammers are annoying – and the others are complicated but the current economic situation isn’t helping)
Every now and then on a casting group, or classified group or simply replying to these young women.
Do you have to be submissive to enjoy kink?
One thing I’ve learnt over the years is that a lot of people who are, or think they are, submissive often get confused on what this entails.
That, not everyone on the “right of the slash” is actually submissive.
I’m not saying that that is any kind of bad thing.
But there’s a world of difference, for example, between someone who is a submissive and someone who is a masochist.
But, either are valid.
Within myself I’ve obviously had my own questions over the years on as of if I’m actually submissive.
The image of a carrot and a stick comes from the old cartoons.
Someone is sitting on a donkey, dangling a carrot in front of its nose by a stick.
This causes the donkey to move forwards, chasing the carrot it cannot reasonably reach. A joke that it’s too dumb to realise it’s being exploited for it’s labour.
The thing is, of course. This could continue infinitum until the labour is no longer required (carrot removed) or until the donkey collapses with exhaustion.
It’s important to avoid being the donkey here and also, well, also not to try this with people. Voluntarily or otherwise.
Ownership : In a BDSM “Lifestyle” Relationship?
Whilst working out the next logical place to go with this mini series; a comment on the context of the relationship raised a very important point.
“It’s would be helpful to have context about the relationship type.
e.g. with love-based lifestylers, you DON’T “seek ‘ownership'” and you don’t have ‘sessions’ (free or otherwise): You seek a relationship with all that entails & communicate accordingly.”
That is something I feel is very important.
It’s also a mistake that a lot of subs make which I feel is worthy of it’s own blog.
I want you to imagine these scenarios
In these conversations Person A is someone making enquiries, and Person B is a Producer of a non-specific TV serial.
An important ‘motivational’ quote is “If you don’t ask, you don’t get”.
This is also varied with, “If you don’t ask the answer is always no” – or – if you’re from my part of the UK either “Shy bairns get nowt” or “Shy bairns get no sweets”.
Now. There are two angles I can go for here.
Every now and then people gain concerns about one platform or another for whatever reason. Many are currently considering leaving OnlyFans.
Whether it is about their liquidity, the ability to pay the performers their sales.
They might even be knowingly breaking the rules – whether it’s by trying to sidestep banned words (ie p0ppers) and you’re not permitted to advertise meets on OnlyFans (and, technically if you offer sessions at all you’d be at risk of falling foul)
But it often comes back that migrating platforms is so much work, they may not have the time. The mere thought is exhausting. Or worries that fans will follow them.
I started writing a post on ownership. It got long. Too long.
So I wanted to break off little parts of it into mini-blogs to be referenced when the main course comes.
This episode is called “10 Mistakes Subs Seeking Ownership Make” – although it’s not exhaustive.
Obviously this is a kinda follow-on from my very popular, ‘So you want to be a film slave’ blog which I also feel is also essential to read.
Certainly a lot of points I will have missed is because they are in there.
From the top. I’m again getting a sharp rise in folk asking about “getting in” to filming.
I’m not sure if they’ve looked at what is happening in the wider society and think some of this doesn’t apply to or affect the adult industry. *But it does*
I believe that the lockdown and restrictions has had people either rue missed opportunities (there’s a lesson in there!) or perhaps felt this is where their biggest chance of getting kink going “when things resume” is.
It’s probably not unnoticed that there are a rise in people signing up to create their own page on a platform like OnlyFans (or AdmireMe, AVN Stars, so on)
Along with this comes the rise in people bitching about people signing up for them.
Whether there’s a hint of fairness (“not so long ago you posted something against this”) or not (“so now everyone is a model?”) or a hint of entitlement and manipulation (“So people won’t do this unless they’re paid, huh? What happened to doing it for fun?”)
There’s a lot of thoughts this churns up within me – I’d like to share. Especially for anyone new to this or chewing sour grapes.
I feel there’s a trap some people fall into – which is based on behaviour patterns. If you are doing these things, you may be limiting yourself.
There is a kinda prejudice to this, but a logic to the prejudice.
It’s not about that you’re a “straight white male” or “older”. But, that your behaviour is following patterns that people have seen before. We know how it ends.
Whilst none of us have a crystal ball, I think one of the next things to come to terms with is that restrictions to cope with the covid19 outbreak are not here for the short-term.
I appreciate a lot of the posts of optimism, but it’s important to also prepare for reality.
There’s a nice upbeat meme on Facebook.
Imagine when lockdown is over – we’d all be running outside our houses, hugging each other. Ringing Nan to say, “Pop the kettle on I’m coming over”. Imagine that first pint in the pub.
It’s a nice feel good fantasy.