Mistress Ana posed a question on twitter earlier this week.

What will you do when the person you admire most, whoever they are, retires and completely washes their hands of adult/sex work?

It’s actually a fear of mine.
And reminds me of the fragility of everything.

I mean, not just the person I admire the most. You could say this for many people I admire.

I suppose it depends on the reasoning.

If you’ve reached a point whereby you are in a position whereby you are set.
For example – you have owned or regular, reliable, loyal, slaves so don’t need to look at new clients or new owned slaves.
You have legacy clip income you can depend on.
Or enough savings or other investments, or whatever.

I suppose that’s not “completely”

To be honest, I’m more concerned about either
– those who decide they’ve had enough
– those who can no longer make their required revenues and so have to look at further employment.

In the latter case, I feel there’s a risk of a slippery slope – because ability to offer sessions becomes limited, or having a shit day in a day job might ruin the mood for an evening session, or the promise of an evening session to lift your mood could become crushing if a timewaster, no show or idiot.

Now. There’s obviously people I admire you can put in different branches to me.

There are some I would be devestated if I never did anything with them (again).
There are some I’d quite like to do something with (again). To different degrees of how much I’d like to.
Probably a bunch where, I’m not bothered – but I still have a whole bunch of respect for.
Because I have respect for most people who stick with an adult/sex worker job. Because it’s something which is effectively helping people’s fantasies come true in this complex web we call “life” and then there’s a whole bunch of idiots and bullshit to deal with and, yeah. I have a respect for you.

Mind, there are a couple of knackers with whips who somehow make a living out of this, but, meh, let’s just not cross paths.

I had a sobering moment recently. Which was quite reflextive. I was talking to a Mistress friend – and she said something like “I don’t want to be old and wrinkly with a whip” which was a reminder there was a finite amount of time before she would decide she didn’t want to do this any more and that would be the end.
Hopefully, in her case, she can retire with a nice nest egg – and retire on her own terms at her own time.

But, it did kind of say to me “we won’t know each other in 15/20/25 years time” which was upsetting on one hand – but then, on another, I’m 35. There are very few people I’ve known 15 years as things stand.
Friend circles have changed, people have come and go. And it did kind of slip me into deeper thoughts of life.

But, I think our friends at any point of life, could be totally different at another.

I still don’t like that thought.

But still. I don’t know. Maybe in 15/20/25 years we WILL still be friends and she will hang up her whips but we’ll still, I dunno, be friends.

Regardless. That side of things is largely in everyone’s hands.

But, it’s those who just wash their hands and walk off. Who’ve had enough of the bullshit, find laws unworkable, get sick of asking pornhub to take down stolen content. You know.
A lot could change to further disadvantage the industry.

This gets in the way of people’s ability to make a living. So, they have to do something else to make a living.

So. This is why…
I help to promote women I like, even if I’m not paying them or intending to pay them : any signal boost that helps keep them doing what they do.

I will defend someone’s right to request a tribute or deposit or something

And of course defend the point of “if she really loved it she’d do it for free”
I love DJing. I’m not coming to your party in nowheresville to pay tunes for you and your mates without some benefit to show for it.

And of course accept that “you’re so pretty Mistress” has a currency of fucking nil. Do you know what has currency? Currency. Tell someone you like ’em with a gift, or at least a “Hey, I just bought a bunch of your clips…” (and don’t be a stupid idiot that pretends he’s bought clips, you do know sales are all reported on, right?)

And you know, even hitting like or love or retweeting, it’s overall a currency of nil – but – it at least helps with the signal boost.

I know a lot of people I admire love their work and so are unlikely to let the odd arsehole drive them out, but, I still want them to be able to continue to love their work.

It’s also why I will also voice out at negative behaviour. It probably won’t change the ways of people who are already displaying negative behaviour, but might steer new guys in the right path, so they can be good contributors to Mistresses – and not a further pain in the arse.

As for an answer to the question.

You know, I think the answer depends on the individual.

For some, it might be a case of missing out on something special you could have had.

Or for those who felt they had something special, it could be like the feeling of an understandable divorce.

And this is why I find it important to try to support those I like, one way or another…
And reminds me of the fragility of everything.

I mean, not just the person I admire the most.  You could say this for many people I admire.

I suppose it depends on the reasoning.

If you’ve reached a point whereby you are in a position whereby you are set.
For example – you have regular, reliable, loyal, slaves so don’t need to take any more on.
You have legacy clip income you can depend on.
Or enough savings or other investments, or whatever.

I suppose that’s not “completely”

To be honest, I’m more concerned about either
– those who decide they’ve had enough
– those who can no longer make their required revenues and so have to look at further employment.

In the latter case, I feel there’s a risk of a slippery slope – because ability to offer sessions becomes limited, or having a shit day in a day job might ruin the mood for an evening session, or the promise of an evening session to lift your mood could become crushing if a timewaster, no show or idiot.

Now. There’s obviously people I admire you can put in different branches to me.

There are some I would be devestated if I never did anything with them (again).
There are some I’d quite like to do something with (again). To different degrees of how much I’d like to.
Probably a bunch where, I’m not bothered – but I still have a whole bunch of respect for.
Because I have respect for most people who stick with an adult/sex worker job.  Because it’s something which is effectively helping people’s fantasies come true in this complex web we call “life” and then there’s a whole bunch of idiots and bullshit to deal with and, yeah.  I have a respect for you.

Mind, there are a couple of knackers with whips who somehow make a living out of this, but, meh, let’s just not cross paths.

I had a sobering moment recently.  Which was quite reflextive.  I was talking to a Mistress friend – and she said something like “I don’t want to be old and wrinkly with a whip” which was a reminder there was a finite amount of time before she would decide she didn’t want to do this any more and that would be the end.
Hopefully, in her case, she can retire with a nice nest egg – and retire on her own terms at her own time.

But, it did kind of say to me “we won’t know each other in 15/20/25 years time” which was upsetting on one hand – but then, on another, I’m 35. There are very few people I’ve known 15 years as things stand.
Friend circles have changed, people have come and go.  And it did kind of slip me into deeper thoughts of life.

But, I think our friends at any point of life, could be totally different at another.

I still don’t like that thought.

But still. I don’t know. Maybe in 15/20/25 years we WILL still be friends and she will hang up her whips but we’ll still, I dunno, be friends.

Regardless. That side of things is largely in everyone’s hands.

But, it’s those who just wash their hands and walk off. Who’ve had enough of the bullshit, find laws unworkable, get sick of asking pornhub to take down stolen content.  You know.
A lot could change to further disadvantage the industry.

This gets in the way of people’s ability to make a living.  So, they have to do something else to make a living.

So. This is why…
I help to promote women I like, even if I’m not paying them or intending to pay them : any signal boost that helps keep them doing what they do.

I will defend someone’s right to request a tribute or deposit or something

And of course defend the point of “if she really loved it she’d do it for free”
I love DJing. I’m not coming to your party in nowheresville to pay tunes for you and your mates without some benefit to show for it.

And of course accept that “you’re so pretty Mistress” has a currency of fucking nil. Do you know what has currency? Currency.  Tell someone you like ’em with a gift, or at least a “Hey, I just bought a bunch of your clips…” (and don’t be a stupid idiot that pretends he’s bought clips, you do know sales are all reported on, right?)

And you know, even hitting like or love or retweeting, it’s overall a currency of nil – but – it at least helps with the signal boost.

I know a lot of people I admire love their work and so are unlikely to let the odd arsehole drive them out, but, I still want them to be able to continue to love their work.

It’s also why I will also voice out at negative behaviour.  It probably won’t change the ways of people who are already displaying negative behaviour, but might steer new guys in the right path, so they can be good contributors to Mistresses – and not a further pain in the arse.

As for an answer to the question.

You know, I think the answer depends on the individual.

For some, it might be a case of missing out on something special you could have had.

Or for those who felt they had something special, it could be like the feeling of an understandable divorce.

And this is why I find it important to try to support those I like, one way or another…

Time is precious.  And, I dunno, I don’t want to turn this into a weird inspirational post, but, I think it’s important to make best use of the time you have – to help contributing to keeping the people you like in business and to spend more time with those more important to you